Going through a breakup and getting over it can be one of the hardest and most depressing times of your life.

You may be still in love and it might be your partner who needs the breakup or maybe the breakup is over a mutual understanding. Anyway, breakups are never fun. We think love is all we need and it’s the only pillar that supports a relationship. Sadly, love isn’t always enough to keep a partnership going, and from time to time, you may need to break up with someone that you think you truly love. However, ending a relationship is rarely cut and dry. 

After a breakup, it’s common that you think it’s the end of the world for you or it’s a literal “Skyfall”. But let us tell you it’s not the end and it will never be an end until and unless you settle for it. Break-ups are quite common and it happens in a lot of relationships.

How long it takes to get over

As we expected, relationship experts have different answers to this question.

According to three different relationship experts to explain just how long it takes to get over a breakup the things you should consider are:

1. Measure how much work you have done on it

It means knowing how much effort you’ve put into a relationship and the effort you are willing to put in after the breakup, most often after a relationship you may want to set yourself low, remain on a bed, and just cry that’s not proportional to the kind of efforts that you took whilst that relationship was going on track. Start taking steps to get over your breakup.

2. Use the six month rule 

Giving time to heal is important as ever. “Try to go by the 6-month rule, which says that for most of us to fully heal, it usually takes around 6 months for every year we are with someone”, relationship expert Lauren Peacock says. 

3. Test your feelings

 You might not even realize you’re over your breakup until you test your feelings. Start seeing people and dating. If you feel unmotivated to do it again or if you constantly try to see your ex in everyone you go out with, that’s the sign you are not ready for an official relationship yet and need more time to heal. Your feelings are for what we give importance to at this time of a relationship so start embracing yourself.

Ways to get over someone after a break up

1. Write or talk it out

There are so many emotions, anger, regret, sadness, loneliness in a breakup sometimes we can’t handle all those emotions on our own. So as a remedy, start expressing your feelings. Remember your mental health is your only priority at a time like this. Some people may find it intimidating to share their feelings with others so write them down. If you are comfortable talking about it, start talking with someone that you trust.

Expressing your feelings is one of the most effective ways to get over a breakup.

2.  Take care of your body

Starting a workout routine can keep your mind away from unwanted thoughts and also increase your self-confidence. Don’t punish yourself by avoiding food and never turn to taking food as a coping mechanism. Have a proper diet and eat fresh fruits and vegetables so that keeps your body and mind fresh.

3. Focus on self love

Embracing yourself and discovering yourself can be a nice start. At the time of a breakup, you may feel many things about yourself. Some people may blame themselves for the things that happened, which makes them feel like they hate themselves. Understand it is common and remember the reason you broke up in the first place.

• Start doing the things you always wanted to do.
• Discover yourself.
• Travel 
• Try a new hobby
• Go spiritual
• Learn new skills

4. Get active

Try to boost your mood. Get active in a way that you enjoy and that doesn’t feel like a punishment, whether it’s early-morning jogs in the park, Zumba, or yoga all the better when accompanied by friends. Get active so that all your happiness hormones get pumped and you feel rejuvenated.

5. Surround yourself with people who care

You may have a lot of friends and connections but it’s not necessary that all of them really care about you. However, surrounded by people who really care about you, would listen to you, and would feel for you. Go get coffee with them, have a fun weekend.

Remember socializing is another way to get over a breakup. Talking to someone about your feelings and getting mental health support from professionals can always improve your mental state. Most importantly understand that mental health is the core of human beings even your physical well-being proportionately depends on it. Talk to a professional to get help.